When We Are Older,

A Family Memoir, Part I

Told through the eyes of each family member, When We Are Older provides a rare 360-degree analysis of family dynamics, all in the same narrative and all centered on the principal antagonist.  Real characters with real life dilemmas provide the reader with much to consider and compare to their own lives, but which character is truly reliable and trustworthy in evaluating the conflict?

Each member has a different view of these challenges, and all see the path forward as one likely to leave their relationships torn apart.  Could this be God’s plan?


Consider that his ability to forgive me and move forward with our relationship is as extreme as his inability to stop worrying about me.  It is odd that he is so committed to one Biblical mandate – forgive 70 x 7 times [1]– and yet so unable to live according to another – be anxious for nothing.”[2]  I can’t imagine how different my life would be if he had reversed those beliefs and was resolved not to be anxious about anything (including me) and not to forgive my many transgressions (or any of them).


What is the difference between a clinical and a behavioral issue in children?  That is a question that I first asked myself at least ten years ago.  In the years since I have also asked it of many doctors, both medical and psychiatric. The mere fact that I have to differentiate between the two types of doctors underscores my dilemma.